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Symbolic Meaning of Funeral Flowers

31/03/2026
Bella Cohen
Symbolic Meaning of Funeral Flowers

Nobody walks into a flower shop and says "I need purity and innocence." They say "my dad died and I don't know what to send." I have heard our Armidale call centre team field that call thousands of times. The voice is different. Quieter. It starts with an apology for not knowing what they want. Sometimes they say something else first. That flowers will not be enough. That nothing they send can fix what has happened. They are right. And they order anyway.

My name is Andrew. Siobhan and I have run Lily's Florist since 2009. Siobhan took sympathy calls herself for the first five years, from the Kingscliff shop and then from our Pottsville home office. She will tell you those calls changed how she thought about the business. They changed both of us. After Siobhan, Anna handled the phones from Pottsville between April 2010 and June 2013. Before that, fifteen years on the bench building sympathy arrangements in Auburn, North Carolina. The research behind this guide is hers. I just run the numbers and ask the questions.

Every other "funeral flower meanings" page on the internet is a lookup table. Lily equals purity. Rose equals love. Six more entries, close the tab. Anna's take is different. She knows why florists reach for certain blooms in sympathy work, what happens when the standard guide collides with a Buddhist family or a Jewish shiva house, and which flowers will actually survive six hours in a warm chapel in January. I checked the data against three published postharvest research sources. She was right on every count.

If you are here because someone has died and you need to order now, the sympathy range starts at $74.50 delivered. Same-day delivery if you order before 2pm weekdays or 10am Saturday. Ring 1300 360 469 and a florist-trained team member will walk you through it. The rest of this guide will be here when you are ready for it.

Colour Rules, and When They Break

White is the default. Whites, creams, muted greens. The palette calms a room instead of competing with the grief already in it. I asked Anna once why white dominates sympathy work and she gave me two sentences I have not forgotten: "Grief is already overwhelming. The last thing the room needs is more visual noise."

But colour symbolism is not universal. The same red rose means "deep love" at a Catholic funeral and "celebration" at a Chinese one. Sending red flowers to a Buddhist family is not a gentle error. It reads as celebrating the death. I ran through our complaint data from the last three years and found that colour mismatch accounted for more sympathy complaints than late delivery. That surprised me. It should not have.

Why Colour Proportion Matters More Than Colour Choice Anna · Qualified florist, trained Auburn NC · Fifteen years on the bench

Colour directly affects the emotional weight of a room. An arrangement running eighty percent white with twenty percent soft green reads as peaceful. Fifty-fifty white and green reads as a garden arrangement for a kitchen bench. In sympathy work, white dominates. Everything else is punctuation.

After building sympathy arrangements for more than a decade, I can tell you this: families remember the flowers that felt right. And the ones that did not. The wrong colour lands as tone deafness at the worst possible moment.

Here is where it gets practical. The table below shows how the same colour carries different meaning across six traditions. Study it for thirty seconds. It could save you from the phone call nobody wants to make.

Colour Western Christian Buddhist Chinese Hindu Jewish Islamic
White Purity, peace Mourning (correct) Mourning (correct) Mourning colour N/A (flowers not standard) Purity (if accepted)
Red Love, grief AVOID (= happiness) AVOID (= celebration) Varies N/A Varies
Yellow Friendship, warmth Humility (acceptable) Grief (with chrysanths) Varies N/A Varies
Pink Grace, admiration Compassion (acceptable) Generally fine Varies N/A Varies
Purple Dignity, spirituality Varies Varies Varies N/A Varies

A table cannot read the room at a funeral home. A florist can. If you are not sure about the family's background, one question fixes everything: "Does the family have any cultural or religious preferences for the flowers?" Our team asks it on every sympathy call. It takes ten seconds and it has prevented more mistakes than I can count.

Flower by Flower: What a Florist Knows That the Internet Does Not

I asked Anna to walk me through every major funeral flower from the bench side. Not the symbolism you can find on page one of Google. The part that happens between the cool room and the chapel. What follows is her commentary with my notes.

Lilies

The symbolism: Restored innocence. Purity. Continuity of life. The white Madonna lily became the funeral flower through medieval Christian art, where it appeared in paintings of the Annunciation as the Virgin Mary's flower. That iconography crossed into funeral tradition: the lily represents the soul restored to innocence after death. Lilies have been placed on graves since Roman times.

The Lily Problem Nobody Puts on a Product Page Anna · Ten years on the sympathy bench before joining Lily's

One white Oriental lily carries three to five blooms that open over a week, filling a chapel with scent as they go. Visually, nothing else in commercial floristry gives you that impact per single bloom.

Two problems. The first is pollen. Those orange anthers shed a powder that stains coffin fabric, funeral clothes, and tablecloths permanently. Water makes the stain worse. Every careful sympathy florist pinches the anthers off before the arrangement leaves the shop. If yours did not, pinch them yourself with a tissue the moment a bloom opens. Do not wait until you see orange dust. By then the damage is on the nearest surface.

The second is fragrance. Orientals in a small chapel are overwhelming. Some mourners find it comforting. Others find it suffocating, especially when grief has already made them nauseous. Asiatic lilies look similar and carry almost no scent, which makes them the better call for a small venue.

Ask about the venue before ordering. Large chapel, high ceilings: Orientals are spectacular. Small room, limited ventilation: request Asiatics. White works across almost every cultural context. The sympathy lilies range covers both.

Roses

The symbolism: Red for love and grief. White for reverence. Pink for grace and admiration. Dark crimson for deep sorrow. Yellow from friends says loyalty and warmth. A single red rose placed in a coffin by a spouse is the last gesture nobody else in the room can claim. That tradition predates the Victorian flower dictionaries by centuries.

Anna told me something about roses I then verified against the postharvest research: red roses are the most vulnerable to UV pigment degradation. The anthocyanin pigments that produce that deep red break down in sunlight. A red rose placed in a sunlit chapel window or at an outdoor graveside service in summer will wash out to dusky pink within forty-eight hours. You can watch it happen on a hot afternoon. White carries no UV risk, but white roses have the shortest vase life of any colour. Most people do not know that. Pink holds better than red and outlasts white.

For outdoor or graveside services, mention the setting when you order. The florist adjusts. Browse sympathy roses.

Chrysanthemums

The symbolism: The most culturally loaded funeral flower on the planet. In Poland, Spain, Croatia, France, Italy and Hungary, chrysanthemums are exclusively death flowers. Placed on graves. Used only in memorial contexts. In China, Korea and Japan, white chrysanthemums mean grief. In Australia and the US, they carry a generally cheerful association. Same flower, opposite meanings, depending on who receives it.

The Chrysanthemum Trap Anna · Three years handling sympathy calls from our Pottsville office

A caller from Townsville once wanted to send chrysanthemums as a birthday gift to a Chinese colleague in Brisbane. I redirected to roses. Chrysanthemums sent to a Chinese household for a celebration send the opposite message. In Chinese culture, those flowers mean death. Full stop.

At a Chinese funeral, white and yellow chrysanthemums are exactly right. Italian funerals, the same. This is the flower where a florist earns their fee. Without knowing the family's background, you cannot know whether chrysanthemums are perfect or catastrophic.

On the bench side: a disbud chrysanthemum lasts fourteen to twenty-one days. Nothing else in the shop comes close. For families receiving multiple tributes, the chrysanthemum arrangement will be the last one on the kitchen bench when everything else has been cleared. I checked that figure against three postharvest papers and they all agree. Chrysanthemums barely notice warm rooms.

Carnations

The symbolism: White for pure love. Pink for remembrance. In Catholic tradition, pink carnations are said to have been created from the Virgin Mary's tears. Red for deep affection.

Anna calls carnations the most disrespected flower in the shop. She is right. They last two to three weeks in a vase. They are budget-friendly, which matters because sympathy orders often come in multiples from workplace groups pooling money. The carnation arrangement outlasts every other tribute on the kitchen bench. One caution: they are ethylene-sensitive. Tell the recipient to keep them away from fruit bowls, or three weeks becomes three days. The same flower, different environment, wildly different outcome.

Orchids

The symbolism: Everlasting love. The word orchid comes from the Greek orchis, which the Victorians politely ignored when they added orchids to the funeral symbolism canon. White phalaenopsis became the sympathy standard because it carries the right weight without the fragrance complications of lilies or the cultural minefields of chrysanthemums.

The Sympathy Gift That Outlives Every Cut Arrangement Anna · Qualified florist · 10,000+ customer calls

Cut flowers last a week, maybe two. A phalaenopsis orchid can live for years. Callers who had lost a parent would ask about something lasting. Something that would still be there at Christmas, on the anniversary, on the days when grief resurfaces without warning. A potted orchid is that gift. It reblooms. It sits on the windowsill. It becomes part of the house. I have had callers tell me the orchid from a funeral five years earlier was still alive and still meant something.

If the recipient is elderly or in care, a low-maintenance orchid is kinder than cut flowers that need daily water changes. White phalaenopsis is the safest sympathy choice.

Gladioli, Hydrangeas, Tulips, and Forget-me-nots

Gladioli mean strength of character. Named "sword lily" for the tall spikes. They give height and formality to standing sprays and large chapel arrangements. Best for formal tributes honouring someone who lived with principle.

Hydrangeas carry heartfelt emotion and gratitude. Anna's bench knowledge here is the detail no competitor has: hydrangeas wilt faster than any other commercial flower in warm conditions. Every degree above 21 degrees increases transpiration by roughly seven percent. In a hot chapel without air conditioning, a hydrangea head can collapse during the service. But they rescue. Submerge the entire head in cool water for thirty to sixty minutes. The bracts drink through their surface, not just the cut end. Anna has pulled them back from fully wilted to upright this way. No tricks, just water. Best for the family home, not the service venue.

Tulips and daffodils mean renewal, hope, new beginnings. Spring flowers carrying an optimism most funeral flowers deliberately avoid. More suited to celebration-of-life services. Seasonal availability limits them to roughly May to October in Australia. Tulips keep growing in the vase and bending toward light overnight. Not a defect.

Forget-me-nots carry their meaning in their name. Remembrance. The wish to never be forgotten. Rarely the feature flower, but a small posy of forget-me-nots left at a grave says one thing, and says it without explanation.

Australian Native Flowers at Funerals

This is the section no competitor writes. I know because I checked every ranking page for "funeral flower meanings" before rebuilding this post. Not one mentions banksia. Not one mentions the Sorry Day flower. It requires bench knowledge that content teams writing from Google searches do not have.

Banksia survives and regenerates after bushfire: endurance and hope. Waratah carries significance in Aboriginal culture: strength, beauty, connection to Country. Eucalyptus has been used in smoking ceremonies for healing and protection. Protea heads are structurally hard enough to last weeks. The Native Hibiscus (Desert Rose) was adopted as the Sorry Day flower by the Kimberley Stolen Generation Aboriginal Corporation, symbolising resilience, compassion, and the scattering of the Stolen Generations.

The Second Life of Native Pods Anna · Started including natives after families said they kept the dried pods

Banksia cones, protea heads, leucadendron pods. The woody structures do not decay the way soft tissue does. Once the moisture leaves, the form remains. Families keep them for months. Sometimes years. A banksia cone on someone's shelf a year after the funeral is doing more emotional work than a dozen roses that lasted five days. The bush has a built-in permanence that imported flowers do not.

The preparation is different. Woody native stems need gentle crushing or a vertical split at the base to help water uptake. They drink hard. A protea can drain a standard vase in two days. The flower head stays intact while everything beneath it empties the water.

Native arrangements are particularly fitting for veterans, people with strong bush connections, and some Aboriginal families. For Sorry Business, the only respectful approach is to ask. Some families prefer natives. Some prefer traditional arrangements. Some prefer no flowers at all. Making assumptions here causes more harm than doing nothing. Explore the sympathy native flowers range.

Funeral Flowers Across Cultures and Faiths

If you are not sure what the family's customs are, you are in the right place. That uncertainty is exactly why Anna fielded these calls for three years.

The 2021 Census recorded more than 300 ancestries in Australia. This is not an abstract cultural note. It is the reason Anna fielded calls where the standard symbolism guide would have sent the wrong flowers to the wrong family. She redirected hundreds of those orders during her three years in Pottsville. What follows is what she learned, checked against our research and the customs reference files we compiled.

Christian (Catholic, Anglican, Protestant, Orthodox)

White flowers dominant. Lilies hold specific resurrection significance. Roses by colour: white for purity, red for love, pink for grace. Orthodox traditions lean toward modest white arrangements and cross-shaped wreaths. One note for Italian Catholic families: chrysanthemums are cemetery flowers. At the funeral they are deeply respectful. As a housewarming gift to an Italian household they carry the opposite meaning. Anna caught that one on the phones often enough to have a ready redirect.

Buddhist

White is the colour of mourning. White chrysanthemums, white orchids, lotus. Red must be avoided. Anna put it plainly: "Not a single red petal. Red at a Buddhist funeral reads as celebrating the death." White-only or white-and-yellow arrangements are the right call. "Buddhist" covers Sri Lankan, Vietnamese, Chinese, Tibetan, Thai and Japanese communities, each with distinct customs layered over Buddhist practice. Always ask about the deceased's background.

Vietnamese

Buddhist customs blended with Confucian values. The white lotus carries a weight in Vietnamese culture that no other flower does, deeply connected to Buddhism, symbolising enlightenment and rebirth. When lotus was unavailable, Anna steered callers to white orchids or white lilies. Vietnamese families often hold the wake at home for three to five days, so timing and delivery location matter. Flowers should arrive before or during the wake, not after.

Hindu

Outsiders do not traditionally send flowers to the service. The family arranges garlands of marigolds and jasmine. Cremation typically happens within twenty-four to forty-eight hours, so timing is critical. Anna's guidance from the phones: "If the caller said the family was Hindu, I steered them away from the standard white sympathy bunch. The right move was a fruit basket or a sympathy arrangement to the home after the cremation. Not during. After."

Jewish

In most traditions, flowers are not sent to the funeral, the graveside, or the shiva house. Simplicity is valued. Kosher food, fruit, desserts during the seven-day shiva mourning period are the right gestures. Anna redirected hundreds of these calls. "A caller would say 'I want to send flowers to a shiva house' and I had to explain that flowers at a Jewish mourning house can cause genuine offence. Not mild awkwardness. Offence. The right move was a fruit basket or a food hamper. The callers were grateful. They did not know."

Islamic

Customs vary by family, regional practice and branch of Islam. The emphasis on simplicity means elaborate arrangements are often unwelcome. If flowers are accepted, white roses tend to be the safest choice from what our team has seen. Food and charitable donations in the deceased's name carry more cultural weight. From what Anna heard on the phones, Muslim families were the most likely to say "we appreciate the thought but we would prefer a donation." That redirection was never awkward. The callers were relieved to have a clear answer. Always confirm with the family before sending.

Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander

Sorry Business is a communal mourning period. Practices vary between communities, families and regions. No single rule applies. Anna's approach: "When a family is going through Sorry Business, the first thing I said was 'have you checked with the family about their preferences?' The safe default, if the family said flowers were fine, was Australian natives. Banksia, kangaroo paw, waratah, eucalyptus. Those connect to Country in a way that imported roses never will."

Chinese (Confucian, Taoist, Buddhist-influenced)

White and yellow chrysanthemums are the traditional choice. White for mourning, yellow for grief. Red must be avoided. White clothing, not black, is worn. Wreaths on stands are standard at funeral halls. In early April, Qingming (Tomb-Sweeping Day) generates a spike in orders for graveside chrysanthemum bunches. Our team sees it every year.

The thread across every tradition: when in doubt, ask. One question prevents a mistake no apology undoes. Ring 1300 360 469 and our team asks the right questions before anything leaves the shop.

Where Funeral Flower Symbolism Comes From

The tradition is older than civilisation. Archaeologists found flower pollen arranged around Neanderthal burial remains in Shanidar Cave, Iraq. Roughly 62,000 BC. We have been putting flowers on graves for longer than we have been building houses.

Ancient Egypt used lotus and papyrus garlands on mummified remains. The lotus symbolised rebirth. That same symbol travelled into Buddhist and Hindu tradition over the following millennia. In Ancient Greece and Rome, myrtle and laurel wreaths adorned the deceased, and six "flower women" carried blooms alongside six pallbearers from the service to the grave.

The Victorian era codified it. From 1819, "flower dictionaries" assigned precise meanings. Cypress for death. Rosemary for remembrance. White lily for restored innocence. Dark crimson rose for mourning. Those Victorian codes are the direct ancestors of the meanings florists work with today.

Here is the part nobody mentions: before embalming became standard, flowers served the very practical purpose of masking decomposition odour. Anna's take on that: "Half of the tradition started because flowers smelled better than the alternative. The symbolism came later. Now the symbolism matters more than the scent, but it is worth knowing where it started. Something very human. Something very practical."

One historical footnote. The Russian flu pandemic of 1889 to 1895 killed more than 125,000 people in Britain alone and catalysed the commercial funeral floral industry. Demand surged. Elaborate tributes became fashionable. The tradition of lining graves with flowers became standard practice. A pandemic built the industry that still serves grief today.

Traditional Funeral or Celebration of Life: What Changes

The fastest-growing trend in Australian funerals is the shift from sombre services to celebrations of life. It changes everything about which flowers belong.

A traditional funeral follows the established palette. Whites, creams, muted greens. The arrangement says "I am sorry." A celebration of life throws the boundaries out. A father who grew sunflowers gets sunflowers. A grandmother who spent forty years tending dahlias in her back garden gets dahlias. The symbolism comes from who the person was, not from a book they might never have read.

On the Shift Happening Now Anna · Bench-trained Auburn NC · Bookkeeper at Lily's since 2013

The calls where someone said "Dad loved sunflowers, so we want sunflowers" were the ones where I asked the most questions and enjoyed the work the most. No template. The arrangement came from who the person was.

But a casket spray at a celebration of life can follow the personal palette while the surrounding arrangements stay traditional. Bright sunflowers on the casket, white tributes from friends around the room. The two registers coexist. Most Australian services now blend both. The family goes personal. Everyone else defaults to white unless told otherwise.

If the invitation says "celebration of life," contact the family or the funeral director and ask about colour preferences. If nobody can tell you, white sympathy flowers remain the universal safe choice.

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What to Tell the Florist When You Order

I will be honest. We cannot guarantee that every partner florist in the network reads the card message before building. Most do. Some do not. But the information you provide in the order notes is the best tool you have for shaping what arrives. Here is what helps, drawn from tens of thousands of sympathy orders since 2009.

The type of service. Traditional funeral, celebration of life, memorial, graveside. A chapel arrangement needs to survive hours of warm, dry air. A bunch going to the family home needs vase life. Different brief, different build.

The funeral home name and the service time. The florist coordinates delivery to arrive before the service, not during it. A 10am service means delivery by 9am. Include the deceased's name in the order notes so the funeral home can match flowers to the right family. They may have three services that day.

Cultural or religious context. If the family is Buddhist, Hindu, Jewish, Muslim, Orthodox, or from a European background with chrysanthemum traditions, say so. The florist adjusts the palette and the build.

Your relationship to the deceased. Close family orders formal, personal tributes. Colleagues and friends order considered, mid-range gestures. The Florist's Choice sympathy products remove the decision entirely. The florist reads the card message, walks the cool room, asks three questions: what reads as sympathy, what will survive the service, and what gives the sender the best value so the recipient thinks they spent more than they did. That third question matters. Nobody wants their tribute to look modest next to the arrangement from the golf club.

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Where the flowers are going. Funeral home, church, cemetery, or the family's house. Wreaths and sheaths go to the service (the circle symbolises eternal life). Bunches and arrangements go to the home. If you are sending to the home a few days after the funeral, that timing can be more meaningful than sending on the day. It arrives when the crowd has left and the quiet grief starts.

Personal preferences of the deceased. Loved the garden? Native Australian flowers? A particular colour? Say so. Those details give the florist something specific to build around. Browse funeral-specific flowers or flowers for the home.

The card message. If you are stuck: for close family, "Thinking of you and your family" is enough. For a workplace collection, "With deepest sympathy from the team at [company]." For someone you barely knew but want to acknowledge, "I'm so sorry for your loss." The florist reads those words before building. A card that says "For Nan, we will miss you every day" produces a completely different arrangement than "From the team at Henderson and Co." The words set the emotional register for the flowers.

After you order. The florist coordinates with the funeral home and delivers before the service. You will receive confirmation. If the recipient has not mentioned the flowers by that evening, do not read into the silence. Grief moves slowly. The card will be read when they are ready.

Siobhan took sympathy calls for five years before Anna joined. They both heard the same thing from families who rang back months later: nobody remembered which flowers were in the arrangement. They remembered who sent them. They remembered what the card said. The card outlasts the flowers by years.

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Phone, not website. That detail tells you everything about the caller profile Anna described from her years in Pottsville. Grief does not want to browse product pages. It wants a human voice, a brief conversation, and someone else to take the decisions from there.

Anna on what happens after that phone call

The florist reads the card message before touching a single bloom. "Deepest sympathy from the Henderson family" gets a formal arrangement in whites and creams. "For Nan, we will miss you every day" gets something personal, softer, with more warmth in the palette. The card sets the register. Then the florist builds with three timelines layered in. The focal flowers peak in the first three days for the service. The workhorses carry the middle of the week at the family home. The backbone chrysanthemums and carnations are still going when everything else has dropped. The arrangement evolves instead of collapsing all at once. That staging is deliberate, even when the customer never knows it is there.

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Related Guides in Our Funeral Flower Series

This guide covers what funeral flowers mean. The rest of the series covers the practical questions around them.

Funeral Service Flower Etiquette covers when to send, where to send, and the protocol around timing and delivery.

Sympathy vs. Funeral Flowers explains the difference between flowers sent to the service and flowers sent to the home. The symbolism rules differ.

Types of Sympathy and Funeral Arrangements covers wreaths, standing sprays, casket sprays, sheaths and bouquets.

If you are deciding which flowers to choose rather than what they mean, What Kind of Flowers Do You Send to a Funeral is the selection guide. For card messages, What to Write on a Funeral Flowers Card covers that with examples by relationship.

If you are stuck and do not know where to start, What to Send When You Don't Know What to Say is probably the most useful first read.

Frequently Asked Questions

White lilies are the most traditional choice and work across most Western traditions. White roses are the safest universal option. If the family has Buddhist, Chinese, or Vietnamese heritage, white chrysanthemums are culturally correct. If you are not certain, a Florist's Choice sympathy arrangement in whites and creams suits almost every service.

Red flowers are wrong at Buddhist, Chinese, and Vietnamese funerals because red signals happiness. For Jewish funerals, flowers of any kind are traditionally not sent. For Hindu funerals, Western-style arrangements are not part of the custom. If unsure, ask the family or ring 1300 360 469 and we will guide you.

For a celebration of life, yes. Bright colours and personal choices are increasingly expected. For a traditional sombre service, stick to whites, creams, and soft pastels. When in doubt, white. Ask the funeral director if you are not sure which type of service it is.

Formal tributes (wreaths, sheaths, standing sprays) go to the service venue. Bunches and vase arrangements go to the family's home. Sending to the home a few days after the funeral can mean more. It arrives when the crowd has left and the quiet grief starts.

The florist selects the best sympathy-suited blooms from that morning's wholesale delivery and builds to match the card message and the occasion. No fixed recipe. No photo to match. The florist uses professional judgment. It is arguably the strongest sympathy product in the range because the florist gets latitude and the result matches the specific service, not a generic website image.

In most traditions, flowers are not sent to the funeral or shiva house. A fruit basket, food hamper, or charitable donation in the deceased's name is the right gesture. Some families in more liberal traditions may accept modest arrangements. Check with the family first. Sending flowers to a family that observes this tradition can cause genuine offence.

Yes. Order before 2pm weekdays or before 10am Saturday. Include the funeral home name, the deceased's name, and the service time in the order notes. Ring 1300 360 469 for urgent orders (7am to 6pm weekdays, from 10am Saturdays).

About the Authors

Andrew and Siobhan Thomson, co-founders of Lily's Florist, with daughters Asha and Ivy
Andrew, Siobhan & Anna
Co-founders & Qualified Florist, Lily's Florist

Siobhan and I bought a flower shop in Kingscliff in 2006 with a baby on the way and no experience. Our accountant said don't. We did it anyway. The network now covers 800+ partner florists across every state and territory. Sympathy orders have been part of this business from the first week. Most decisions still happen at the kitchen table. Read our full story.

Anna trained in Auburn, North Carolina and worked on the bench for fifteen years before handling inbound calls from our Pottsville home office from April 2010 to June 2013. She processed over ten thousand calls, hundreds of which were sympathy orders where the caller needed guidance on cultural customs, flower selection and delivery to funeral homes. She is now our bookkeeper. The bench knowledge and the call experience inform everything in this guide.

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