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The invitation says 60. Lunch is at the family house. You are in Sydney with a deadline. Send the Rose, Gerbera & Lilies Bunch to the house for the morning, before the kitchen bench disappears under platters; it suits a 60th birthday or a 50th. Put a mobile number in the notes so the florist can ring it if nobody comes to the door.

Anna, on the first fill

Toowoomba tap water in winter comes out properly cold. For the first fill, run it until it is just warm, because warm water climbs a thirsty stem faster.

Mum’s birthday, or just too long since your last visit. Bupa Rangeville on Mackenzie Street has 108 beds and two dementia communities; Symes Thorpe on Stenner Street is smaller houses on 44 acres. Either way, the full name and the wing or house go in the notes. For a 70th or a 90th birthday, the card can be simple: “Happy birthday, Mum. Save me a slice.”

Early in 2008 I carried lilies into Noble Lakeside Park, the retirement village up the road from our Kingscliff shop, with Asha, nine months old, objecting from the car. Pollen down my shirt, a stem snapped on the path, residents at the window. I drove home looking like the intern. Anna has firm views on what should have been in my hands.

Send it standing in its own vase or box, in flowers they would know from a garden: roses, daisies, gerberas. Save lilies for a house, where someone will pinch the pollen off as each one opens.

The notice is up, the service is Thursday, and you cannot be there. Send a wreath or sheath, such as the Wreath With White & Purple Tones, with the funeral director, church and start time in the notes: St Mark’s on High Street, Hiram Philp on Herries Street, or a memorial in the chapel at Symes Thorpe. Sympathy flowers for the home can follow a week later, with a card as short as “With love to you all.” You may never know if they noticed yours among the others, and sending them is still right.

White, cream and soft green sit quietly among the tributes. A bright mixed bunch among all that white looks like it came to the wrong event. At the house afterwards, colour is welcome again.

A thank-you to a teacher at St Joseph’s College on James Street. The neighbour who fed the dog for a fortnight. No reason at all. None of them needs a category.

Anna’s pick: the Pastel Pink Lilies & Roses Arrangement. It arrives in a container, so nobody hunts for a vase, and soft pink reads right for a teacher, a neighbour or a friend. Pinch the lily anthers off as each bloom opens and the pollen never reaches a shirt.